Dance Moms Blog Project

For my blog project I got to choose a reality TV show that had an argument, and describe what happened, and how it should be handled in a business perspective.

The dance instructor Abby was talking about having a new student take place of two of her students that had been taking classes with her for 10 plus years. Kelli (the mom of the two girls) was very upset with Abby at one of the competitions because she told Kelli that if she was not happy with her teaching style then she should give her oldest daughter Brooke her costume to the new girl. So the new girl could go on stage and take Brooke’s spot. The new girls mother walks in at this time and tries to introduce herself to Kelli, and ask Kelli what her and her daughter were getting themselves into. Kelli promptly says a bully as a teacher. And then proceeds to tell her that Abby said her children look miserable so they should just quit. Abby quickly gets up and says, “Listen here dingbat I never said that.” While getting up in Kelli’s face as she is saying it. Kelli then yells, “Get your fat fingers out of my face.” So then as Kelli is saying this Abby starts chomping her teeth together like she is Ms. Packman, which then just enrages Kelli, so Kelli slaps Abby in the face and pulls her hair. After Abby gets free from Kelli’s hands, Kelli yells, “Get away from me” Abby turns away and walks about of the room and calls the cops. At the end of the episode it shows Kelli being escorted out of the building by cops, and Abby sitting in a dressing room crying.

Dance Moms Blog Project

My blog project I had to watch an episode of a reality TV show where there is a big argument. I then had to describe what happened, and how it should have been handled in a business perspective.

The dance instructor Abby was talking about having a new student take place of two of her students that had been taking classes with her for 10 plus years. Kelli (the mom of the two girls) was very upset with Abby at one of the competitions because she told Kelli that if she was not happy with her teaching style then she should give her oldest daughter Brooke her costume to the new girl. So the new girl could go on stage and take Brooke’s spot. The new girls mother walks in at this time and tries to introduce herself to Kelli, and ask Kelli what her and her daughter were getting themselves into. Kelli promptly says a bully as a teacher. And then proceeds to tell her that Abby said her children look miserable so they should just quit. Abby quickly gets up and says, “Listen here dingbat I never said that.” While getting up in Kelli’s face as she is saying it. Kelli then yells, “Get your fat fingers out of my face.” So then as Kelli is saying this Abby starts chomping her teeth together like she is Ms. Packman, which then just enrages Kelli, so Kelli slaps Abby in the face and pulls her hair. After Abby gets free from Kelli’s hands, Kelli yells, “Get away from me” Abby turns away and walks about of the room and calls the cops. At the end of the episode it shows Kelli being escorted out of the building by cops, and Abby sitting in a dressing room crying.

Communication Style

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On December 12th 2013 Supreme Leader of North Korea Kim Jong Un, ordered the death of his uncle. He was found guilty of  “attempting to overthrow the state,”. According to some reports, he was thrown into a cage and eaten alive by dogs. This is just one of many incidents in which the leader of North Korea has displayed his authority over those around him. If we look at this incident in the context of studying communication, many questions can be raised. Kim Jong Un was obviously communicating that any attempt to undermine his authority would not be tolerated, but what would cause him to communicate things in such an aggressive and brutal manner? In order to answer this question one must understand how upbringing and experience affects a persons’ frame of reference, and the way that they communicate to others

As we can see in the previously mentioned execution, not all communication is verbal, there are many ways to get your point across to others through actions. In the case of Kim Jong Un, he was raised under the guidance of Kim Jong Il, his father and predecessor. He was taught to communicate to other nations via military demonstrations, displaying what they considered to be their military might, in order to intimidate others to give in to their demands. These efforts by his father most likely had a very profound impact on the young future ruler. As he aged and eventually came into power following his fathers’ death, his frame of reference came to resemble his fathers’ as he sought to establish his authority and intimidate others into cooperation.

Ones’ communication style is greatly affected by previous experience and upbringing. It is during these times that we learn what does and does not work regarding communicating with others. Learning from others and the past is vital for everyone, but especially in the case of a nations’ leader. Kim Jong Un has learned from his father, his grandfather, and countless dictators before them throughout history. He has learned that communicating with others is essential to gaining and maintaining power. He, and dictators like him have learned that a successful way of controlling others, is to instill fear in them, and to convince them that undermining their authority is an idea that will not play out well for them in the long run. Communication is a powerful tool, whether it be through words or actions, and in the case of the North Korean dictator, he does not communicate verbally with the public very often at all. He is content to send his messages through other means.

Another communication to the people of North Korea is made simply through the official name of the country, The Democratic Peoples’ Republic of Korea. While this name would imply democracy to its’ citizens, this is not at all the case. In fact, when Kim Jong Un was “elected” to the assembly, he was the only person on the ballot, and the people were able to vote “yes or no”. According to government officials, there was a record number in turnout, and all votes were “yes”. This is a clear example of the North Korean government communicating to its’ people that they have a say, and a voice in what goes on, even if it is a lie.

A persons upbringing and experience can have great effects on the way a person communicates with others. Kim Jong Un was raised by a dictator, and saw the way he interacted with other nations and people. He now communicates in a similar manner, through brutality, violence, and lies, in an effort to retain his power and control those around him.

-By Austin Straub